Can You Still Flirt Through The Medium of Online Dating Sites?

This is a good question because it is a different challenge flirting when you can’t see 80% of the communication that is going on. Do you know that 80% of your communication is non-verbal? It is quite true because those are the big signals which tell you if the person in front of you is in a good mood or stressed.And of course it is in the things that people don’t say where you can learn the most! Intelligent people are able to determine this even in very brief presentations, so communication is quite important. However flirting this way is not impossible on online dating sites, in fact they are quite interesting. Here you will be focussing on that 20% of communication in black and white which hardly gives you an idea about her tone. The good part about flirting online is that you don’t have to make any mistakes, everything is editable and that really helps here. Being spontaneous is not that critical when you know you have to wait a bit for a response but being able to be witty and clever in your retorts, no matter what the medium – always helps when it comes to the flirting game. Here are some important tips that you should know when you flirt on an online dating site:

Have fun! Flirting is a great leisure activity that gets your brain going. If you come up with good lines then you will really start enjoying every minute and needless to say that your date would like it too. If you don’t find yourself in the mood then you won’t be able to pull this off together.

Listen carefully Flirting gets easily spoiled because it is built upon a temperament. If you ruin the tempo then the flirting streak will kill itself. So make sure that you also listen carefully because those lines are the only input you are getting from her. There is nothing more annoying than finding each other on different planes after a few dialogues. This will also show that you are being respectful to her words.

Have a good profile Your online dating profile is an important selling feature. Not only is should attract people to contact you but also find reasons to flirt. If you find in your date’s profile that she loves to swim, then you could always mention that later when you are having a light-hearted conversation. It really helps to know that you have done your homework and so you’re not mistaken for bringing up a new subject altogether.

Confidence is paramount Your confidence will gauge how well you will flirt with your date. If you are confident then you will be able to crack really good jokes and also take up some hard hitting commentary. After all flirting is a challenge because you are attempting to come with a better comeback every time. Confidence will also help you think well when you need to be quick and smart about recalling some good ideas.

The only real advice I can give you here is to be yourself. Only by being yourself can you ever gain true confidence, besides – what’s the point in spending all your time and energy getting her/him to like you for someone that you are not!?That’s just crazy.

Leaving note Like all meetings, there should be a follow up note. No matter how your date went, both ends really want to know if their date had a good time. Whether your intent was for love or lust – when it comes to flirting online it is important to remember that it is the ‘chase’ that is as much a part of the flirt game as anything else, and you cannot have a chase without a followup – simple as that.

Make it a point to show that you had a good time and would really look forward to meet again later. This will motivate your date and probably increase the chances to meet again, if you want to of course.

How to Make Yourself Attractive to Women Online – Part 5 – Planning That First Date

If you have been following the first four of these articles, and putting into practice the tips for your online profile, then you are more than likely to be wanting to go out on a first date with a female member of your site. This is actually what you joined the site for, so you need to prepare for the event in great detail to make sure that it goes smoothly.

With online dating there is a fine line between taking your time to get to know a person, and letting the moment slip by. Often you can recognise the signs that someone is getting bored and wants to move on to a physical date. Some girls may say, ” have I told you enough information about myself,” or ” I feel that I know you really well now.” These are tell-tale indicators that the person you are communicating with is ready, and wants you to ask her out.

Remember that even though it is a modern and new phenomena, women still often like the man to take the lead in asking them out, although granted there are some who feel that they are liberated enough to do it themselves.

Another reason for not dragging out the “getting to know each other via Email” for too long, is that if you get on the date and realise she is not the one, you will have wasted a lot of time just to find this out. Sooner rather than later, the first date should be planned, and if you are getting on well through you live chat or Emails, why delay? There is no good reason, so go ahead and ask her out. If you want to find out about what a person is really like, then a physical meeting is worth dozens of Emails.

One very good reason to delay a meeting would be if the female member you are chatting to has not given you any signs, or has expressed her nervousness at meeting someone physically. Some people are actually online just to chat, and get their fun through this; it is therefore up to you to decide in this situation if she is worth pursuing.

A general rule which will work, is that you should plan to go out on a physical date after the third or fourth Email. If people are not ready, they will not be offended if you ask, so don’t be shy, though don’t also be too pushy. First dates should be short and planned out, and I will come to this in the next part of the series.

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